The month where school ends, summer vacation begins, and so many memories are made in the sun. This is also a time where so many Angel Families miss their Angel even more. The reason for this, and what so many don’t understand, is because we’re missing one heartbeat in our family tree. Summer is a time when so many families plan a family vacation…and that is a hard thing to think about for Angel Families.
When you plan your vacation, you consider where you want to go, the ages of everyone, the activities you want to plan, how many tickets you might need, the number of snacks and drinks even…
For Angel Families, we know the number we SHOULD have, and then there’s the number we really have now. This is all hard for us to think about and realize each and every time. Take that down to every day activities, and that really compounds it all.
Summer time is also a time when Angel Families, just like so many others who have lost loved ones, visit the cemetery. There’s clean up that needs done, there’s new decorations to be placed, new landscaping to be done. Most people think about this for a grandparent’s grave, an aunt, an uncle, or another family member… Angel Families do this for their child.
Many would say how great that is that they do that. However, think about how “out of the norm” that really is. We’re not supposed to be decorating and cleaning the graves of our CHILDREN. They are the ones who are supposed to be doing ours one day. Our children are supposed to be the ones that visit OUR graves, reminiscing, laughing, crying, and telling stories to each other.
However, that is not our journey. We Angel Families are the ones that go to the graves that look like every other grave in the cemetery, yet we know that what lies below the earth is a much smaller casket.
To all the Angel Families out there: You are not alone. We are here to help, to give a shoulder, an ear, or to just share a cup of coffee.
To those who are not Angel Families: Take a moment, regardless of how brief, and let those who are Angel Families know that you care and that you remember. In the end, that is really all we want to know.